Learn To Protect Yourself From Energy Vampires

 
 

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As sentient spirits in human form, we are constantly interacting with the energies of other people. This invisible exchange of energy can be a very positive, uplifting experience, or it can be very toxic and draining.

Those of us with heightened psychic awareness, such as empowered empaths or highly intuitive people, can usually tell when someone’s vibes are one way or the other. Healthy or unhealthy. Good or bad. We usually know what kind of incoming and outgoing energy we are dealing with.

But if transpersonal energy awareness does not come naturally to you, it is essential that you actively strive to develop your ability to discern the difference, for there is always a transpersonal energy exchange whenever we interact with others, and this is often the breeding ground for some of our health and wellness problems that we attribute to other causes.

For this reason, I encourage my clients who are struggling with energy balance and maintaining personal boundaries to practice personal and spiritual self-care and related energy healing and psychic shielding work.

Transpersonal energy exchange refers to the exchange of life force, vital energy, or chi that occurs between individuals on a metaphysical or spiritual level. This energy exchange does not require physical contact or the proximity of the other person, as it can occur at any distance with anyone with whom you have established an energy cord connection.

These energy bonds are stronger and capable of more powerful energy exchange with people with whom you have a deeply intimate or close personal relationship, such as romantic partners, spouses, close friends and relatives.

ESOTERIC ENERGY EXCHANGE

The concept of transpersonal energy exchange between people is a common theme in esoteric and occult traditions. Mystics and alchemists have always believed that people can exchange energy with each other through their thoughts, feelings, and actions. Many esoteric traditions recognize that individuals possess a subtle energy field, often referred to as the aura, which continually interacts with the energy fields of others. This exchange can be positive, fostering connection and well-being, or negative, leading to draining experiences.

ENTRAINMENT

One way that energy is transpersonally exchanged between people is through the process of entrainment. Entrainment is the process of one thing making another thing have the same pattern or rhythm. When people are in close proximity to each other, our brain waves and auric energy frequencies begin to synchronize. This is because we are constantly emitting electromagnetic waves or energy vibrations, and these waves or vibrations interact with those of others.

PROJECTION

Another way that energy is exchanged between people is through the process of projection. When we interact with other people, we tend to project our own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs onto them. This is because we are constantly trying to make sense of the world around us, and we use our own experiences as a frame of reference. When we project our own thoughts and feelings onto others, we can create a feedback loop that reinforces those beliefs.

ATTACHMENT

The concept of energy attachments, or energy cords, plays a crucial role in the esoteric understanding of transpersonal energy exchange. These invisible psychic cords form between individuals as they interact, carrying energetic residues of their shared experiences. Positive attachments represent shared joy, support, and harmonious connection, while negative attachments are associated with conflict, resentment, or unresolved emotional issues.

Over time, negative energy attachments can accumulate, weakening an individual’s energetic vitality and hindering personal growth. These attachments can result from past relationships, unresolved conflicts, or even casual interactions with those who carry negative emotional baggage.

VAMPIRISM

The concept of psychic or energy vampirism is prevalent in various esoteric and occult traditions, often described as individuals who drain the vital energy of others. This energy, often referred to as life force or prana, is believed to be essential for maintaining physical and emotional well-being.

In esoteric circles, psychic vampires are seen as individuals who may have no malicious intent, but who may lack the ability to regulate their own energy fields and inadvertently draw energy from those around them. This draining effect can manifest as feelings of fatigue, emotional turmoil, or a general sense of depletion after interacting with such individuals.

The origins of psychic vampirism can be traced back to ancient folklore and mythology, where creatures such as vampires, succubi, and incubi were believed to prey on human life force. These beliefs often reflected a deeper understanding of the subtle energy dynamics between individuals and the potential for negative energy exchange.

In modern esoteric thought, psychic vampirism is seen as a spectrum of behaviors and experiences, ranging from unconscious or unintentional draining to intentional manipulation of others’ energy for personal gain. Some practitioners believe that individuals may develop psychic vampiristic tendencies due to unresolved emotional issues, trauma, or a lack of conscious energy management practices.

SCIENTIFIC ENERGY EXCHANGE

The concept of transpersonal energy exchange is mostly considered an esoteric or spiritual concept, but there is growing scientific evidence to support the idea that energy can be transferred between individuals. A growing body of research suggests there may be a physical basis for the phenomenon. For example, studies have shown that people in close proximity to each other can synchronize their heart rates and breathing patterns.

Studies have also found that people can influence each other’s physiological states, such as blood pressure, heart rate, and even pain perception, through non-verbal means. This phenomenon is called “psychophysiological synchrony” or “emotional contagion.

One study found that people can synchronize their perception of pain when exposed to the same stimuli. For example, if one person experiences a painful stimulus, the other person is more likely to report feeling pain as well. This suggests that we may be able to influence each other’s perception of pain through empathy and shared attention.

Some researchers believe that psychophysiological synchrony may be mediated by subtle cues such as facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice. These cues may signal our emotional state to others, who may then unconsciously mimic our physiological responses.
In parapsychology, some studies have suggested that individuals with strong telepathic abilities may be able to influence each other’s heart rate variability (HRV) patterns (a measure of the variation in time between heartbeats).

One of the most well-known studies in this area was conducted by Dr. William Braud and his colleagues at the Mind Science Foundation in San Antonio, Texas. In this experiment, the researchers measured the skin conductance level (SCL) of a subject while he was exposed to different types of thoughts from an observer in another room. Skin conductance is a measure of the electrical conductivity of the skin and is thought to be an indicator of stress or arousal.

The researchers found that when the observer was instructed to think negative, hateful, or angry thoughts about the target, the target’s SCL levels increased significantly. This suggests that the observer was able to influence the target’s stress level through his or her thoughts.

Interestingly, the researchers also found that the effect was stronger when the observer and target were strangers and when the observer was instructed to focus his or her thoughts on the target’s specific emotions. This suggests that the effect may be mediated by telepathy or some other form of transpersonal exchange.

The Braud study is one of the few studies to provide strong evidence for the ability of one person to influence the physiological state of another through their thoughts. While the evidence for metaphysical transpersonal influence is compelling, more research is needed to fully understand how it works and how we can use it to our advantage.

THE EFFECTS OF TRANSPERSONAL ENERGY EXCHANGE

The experience of transpersonal energy exchange is mostly subconscious or unconscious, and the specific effects of transpersonal energy exchange on individuals are varied, subjective, and depend on the nature and health of the relationship or interaction.

When we spend time with kind, loving, positive people who truly care about us, we experience a sense of relaxation, peace, or well-being during and after an energy exchange with them. We may also experience emotional release, increased energy, joy and happiness, or a heightened sense of connection and belonging.

When it comes to toxic energy exchange and energy vampirism, the opposite is true. When we spend time with mean-spirited, self-absorbed, negative people who only care about themselves, who try to steal our energy, or who try to put us down or take advantage of us, we feel depleted, tense, emotionally exhausted, anxious, resentful, stressed, sad, or even depressed during and after an energy exchange with them. Energy vampires figuratively suck the love, joy and happiness out of any room they enter.

Highly intuitive people tend to have strong gut feelings, premonitions and ominous feelings when they encounter an energy vampire. People who are more psychically attuned or energy aware may also feel physical sensations such as a tingling sensation, goosebumps, a chill up the spine, a warm or cool sensation, hair standing on end, or a sense of vibration.

Some may also experience strange emotions, images, or thoughts that they attribute to the other person. Whether or not you are aware of transpersonal energy exchange in your daily life, there is a powerful connection between people. Our thoughts, emotions, and energy have a profound effect on each other.

RECOGNIZING TOXIC ENERGY EXCHANGE

Understanding and identifying toxic or negative people and relationships is the first step to making positive changes in your life and distancing yourself from energy vampires.

An energy vampire can be anyone in your life, from family members and friends to co-workers and even strangers you occasionally meet. To know the difference between a healthy and an unhealthy energy exchange, ask yourself the following questions when interacting with someone.

1. Is this person actively listening to me as I am listening to them? Do I listen to them as much as they listen to me? Or is it always one-way?

2. Do I usually feel drained or energized when I interact with them? Does it feel good and right to be in their presence? Or is the person mentally, emotionally, and physically draining to be around?

3. When I walk away from an interaction with them, do I feel guilty, anxious, frustrated, tired, or depressed? Or do I feel inspired, motivated, hopeful, excited, fulfilled?

THE ENERGY THIEF PERSONALITY

Energy vampires often exhibit certain personality traits and behaviors that signal their tendency to drain your energy. Here are some signs that someone may be toxic or stealing your energy:

Judgmental. They focus on the negative aspects of life or others, making you feel unworthy, rejected, or defeated. Excessive criticism from a friend or loved one can be very damaging to your self-esteem and well-being.

Complaining. You are always complaining and negative. Energy Vampires have a pessimistic view of life. They focus on the negative aspects of their own lives or may find fault with others.

Attention-seeking. They need to be the center of attention and everything revolves around them. They often manipulate or guilt you into giving them your time and energy. Energy Vampires also tend to have a strong need for validation. They talk endlessly about themselves or constantly seek sympathy from others. They drain the energy of others without giving anything back. If you find yourself constantly giving without getting anything in return, it may be a sign of a toxic relationship.

Emotionally unavailable. They are unable to provide emotional support or return your feelings, leaving you feeling drained and uncared for. Energy vampires, however, control others by playing on their emotions. They may guilt you or make you feel responsible for their problems without regard for your needs or struggles.

Manipulative. They manipulate you and try to control your thoughts, feelings, actions, or decisions, making you feel like you have no personal autonomy. If you feel manipulated or coerced into doing things or thinking a certain way that you are not comfortable with, it is a red flag.

Disrespectful: If you constantly feel disrespected or belittled, this could be a sign of a toxic relationship.Oddly enough, you should feel honored instead, as Energy Vampires are generally attracted to good people who are kind, compassionate, empathetic, and spiritually aware.

TYPES OF ENERGY VAMPIRES

Recognizing these signs and identifying the types of toxic people in your life is crucial to taking steps toward healthier and more positive relationships.

The Pessimist: These people constantly focus on the negative aspects of life, spreading pessimism and discouraging others from pursuing their dreams. They view the world through a lens of cynicism and find it difficult to see the good in others or in any situation.

The Doom Prophet: Always expecting the worst. They tend to predict negative outcomes and dwell on potential problems, even if they are unlikely to occur. This constant negativity can sap the energy and optimism of those around them.

The Drama Royal: They thrive on theatrical attention and often create drama or exaggerate situations to stir things up. They exaggerate problems, make false accusations, or encourage conflict in order to remain the center of attention.

The Whiner: They are constantly complaining and expressing dissatisfaction with their lives, circumstances, and even the smallest details. They rarely take responsibility for their actions or seek solutions to their problems, preferring to wallow in negativity and self-pity.

The Blamer: They never take responsibility for their mistakes or shortcomings. Instead, they deflect blame by making excuses or blaming external factors for their failures.

The Martyr: They act like victims, constantly putting themselves down and complaining about their hardships. They seek sympathy and attention by portraying themselves as constantly suffering or struggling. They refuse to take responsibility for their own decisions and actions.

The Passive-Aggressor: This person expresses their negative feelings or displeasure indirectly rather than communicating their concerns directly. They may use sarcasm, subtle jabs, or withholding affection to express their resentment or disapproval.

The Controller: This person often tries to dominate and control those around them, leaving them feeling powerless.

The Manipulator: Manipulative people use tactics to control and influence others for their own benefit, often at the expense of others’ well-being.

The Critic: This type of energy vampire is quick to judge and criticize, rarely offering support or encouragement. They love to gossip and spread negativity to poison relationships and create a toxic environment.

The Neglectful Narcissist: This type of narcissist is preoccupied with their own needs and desires, often neglecting the needs of others. They are emotionally unavailable, dismissive of others’ feelings, and unwilling to compromise or share the spotlight. Their self-centeredness can damage relationships and make others feel unimportant.

The Exploitative Sociopath: They take advantage of others for their own personal gain, often without regard for the consequences. They manipulate, use others’ resources, or exploit their vulnerabilities for their own gain.

The Gaslighter: This type of Narcissist controls and manipulates others by making them question their own sanity or perceptions. They deny their own actions, manipulate victims into misremembering events, or twist facts to suit their own agenda.

The Toxic Atheist: These non-believers and nihilists are intolerant, condescending, or dismissive of anything related to spirituality, a higher power, the interconnectedness of all things, and something greater than themselves. In fact, they are the type of energy thieves who are least likely to understand the concept of transpersonal energy sharing and psychic vampirism! These individuals often resort to personal attacks or insults against anyone who believes in something they do not. They tend to struggle with their own spiritual doubts and existential insecurities, and lash out at others as a way of projecting themselves from heir own fears and lack of purpose.

THE ORIGINS OF ENERGY VAMPIRES

I have been asked why there are people who resort to energy theft, or energy vampirism, when there is enough energy abundantly available for everyone in the universe. Why would anyone choose to become an energy thief when they have direct access to as much energy as they want for themselves?

The sad truth is that no one chooses to become an energy vampire. These unfortunate souls simply do not know that they can access their own energy, or perhaps they do not know how, nor do they have the skills or tools to do so.

Energy vampirism is therefore essentially a psychic or transpersonal disability. These individuals often resort to stealing energy from others at a very young age, without realizing it, because they simply do not know any better. This happens whenever they feel low on energy and unconsciously seek to replenish their energy stores by drawing from others.

It is important to note that energy theft is not intentional. If they are reasonably self-aware, they may realize that they are being unkind, manipulative, or judgmental, for example, but they do not realize that they are actually helping themselves to your energy. These people are unknowingly stealing energy from others, and since they lack awareness, it is up to you to protect yourself from their energy theft, because they will certainly do it for you.

SAVING THE ENERGY VAMPIRE

Is it our spiritual duty to bring awareness to the energy thieves that they have a problem that they can solve if they acknowledge it, make the effort to get help, and do the work to save them from themselves? Yes and no. The spiritual responsibility of being our “brother or sister’s keeper” does not mean we should be doormats or nursemaids to others. It means that we should be compassionate and caring towards others, but also that we should have healthy boundaries and not allow others to take advantage of us.

One of the most valuable lessons we can all learn in our lives is to understand and accept that no one is coming to “save us.” We did not choose to come into this world to be a victim or a predator. We must all be our own rescuers. It is not the duty of others to fix our lives or make us feel better. There can be no spiritual and personal growth without personal responsibility and accountability. Each person is responsible for making sure they get what they need in life: mind, body, and soul. It is never okay to put another person in that role. And if we find ourselves in need of professional or spiritual help, we must find the appropriately qualified person to assist us.

As important as it is to learn how to deal with different types of people, truly toxic people and energy vampires will never be worth your time and energy. It’s too much for anyone to bear that kind of responsibility for a loved one, friend, or co-worker. Leave it to God, Source, Spirit, the Divine, and the mental health professionals. As a psychic intuitive, I know when I can help clients with an issue and when it is best for them to see a therapist. We all need someone to talk to, and it’s good to know when and who to go to. There are many ways to be heard and knowing who to go to is essential to getting the best help at the right time.

It is pointless to try to help someone else with their mental health problems if your own well-being begins to suffer as a result. Even the Dalai Lama believes that we should protect ourselves from negative people. He once said, “If someone comes to you to complain, don’t be the dustbin. Be the solution. Yes, it is our compassionate duty to be a good listener and support others when they need it most, but if your friend expects you to counsel them all the time, some boundaries are in order.

If you find that you need to step away from someone for the sake of your own mental health, know that this is okay. You can certainly give them some positive closure by encouraging them to seek professional help, since you are not qualified to help them. But then you need to step away and put on your own oxygen mask first. You are of no use to anyone, including yourself, if you are constantly providing life-giving oxygen to someone else while suffocating. This is not what you signed up for as a divine spiritual being.

I often help clients who are dealing with energy vampires. For example, just recently I helped someone who has been involved in a deeply stressful, draining relationship with a friend who is constantly playing the victim and putting her in the uncomfortable position of having to play therapist, counselor, older sister, mother and nursemaid. It’s one thing to sometimes be there for a partner, friend, or relative when they’re going through a difficult time and need support.But it is something else entirely when it becomes a constant, on a daily basis, with no end in sight. Enough is enough! Charity begins at home.

Yes, everyone deserves love and support. We all need someone to talk to. But at some point you have to draw the line between being a caring, supportive friend and becoming someone’s free therapist, or worse, their emotional punching bag and doormat!

As a professional psychic, it is also important for me to know who to let into my personal and professional life and who to keep at arm’s length. It would be impossible for me to give accurate readings and truly be of service to my clients if I was constantly being drained or emotionally exploited by the people in my life.

So, bottom line, learn to recognize which relationships, energy connections and transpersonal exchanges in your life are healthy and uplifting and which are not. It’s essential to your personal well-being, spiritual growth and soul evolution. In fact, it is the foundation of proper self-care.

HOW TO PROTECT AND SHIELD YOUR ENERGY

Setting boundaries with toxic or negative people and energy vampires, and adopting self-care strategies, energy protection techniques, and spiritual practices are critical to your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. In the worst cases, it may also be best to cut ties and go “no contact” for your highest good.

PERSONAL BOUNDARIES

Setting personal boundaries involves identifying what behavior is acceptable and unacceptable to you. Reflect on your values and comfort level, and consider what makes you feel safe and respected.

Communicate your boundaries clearly and assertively. For example, if someone tends to criticize or put you down, let them know that this behavior is not acceptable. It is important to be firm yet respectful in enforcing your boundaries. Express your boundaries in a calm and clear manner, avoiding accusations or hostility. Use “I” statements to communicate how their behavior affects you and what you need from them.

It’s important to be consistent in enforcing your boundaries and not give in to manipulation or guilt. Remember that boundaries are about self-preservation, not about controlling others.

EMOTIONAL DETOX

When it comes to setting self-care boundaries or even cutting ties with energy vampires, the best first step is often to go through an “emotional detox.” This involves ridding yourself of negative emotions and energy residues and reclaiming your mind, body and soul well-being. This usually requires some time and space away from the energy vampire.

Take time to acknowledge and process your feelings, whether it’s anger, sadness, or frustration. Reflect on the impact of the toxic relationship on your emotional state and allow yourself to fully experience these feelings. Journaling, meditation, and seeking therapy can be valuable tools in this process, helping you to gain clarity and perspective.

If physical distance or a timeout is not practical, then at least choose the “gray rock method” of disengaging from manipulative or abusive people. It involves becoming emotionally unresponsive and non-reactive, as if you were a “dull, gray rock.” The gray rock method is based on the idea that these individuals energetically feed off your reactions and responses, and by becoming emotionally unresponsive, you deprive them of their supply. Remember, someone can only steal your energy if you allow them!

Here are some of the key principles of the gray rock method:

– Be as boring and emotionless as possible. Do not get involved in their drama or arguments.

– Give short, noncommittal answers. Avoid expressing your own opinions or feelings.

– Limit personal information. Do not share anything about your life that they could use to manipulate or control you.

– Avoid eye contact and physical contact. This can make you appear more approachable and vulnerable.

– Be consistent. If you start to show emotion or engage with them, it will be harder to go back to the gray rock method.

SELF-CARE PRACTICES

When dealing with energy vampires, it’s important to practice self-care by engaging in activities that bring you joy and comfort, whether it’s indulging in a hobby, spending time in nature, or pampering yourself.

Prioritize your mental and physical health by eating well, exercising regularly, and getting plenty of rest. Spend time with nature and animals. Walk or jog in the park, meditate on the beach, or just walk barefoot on the grass outside your house. Join a hiking club or go scuba diving.

Spend time with your pets. If you do not have pets, volunteer at your local animal shelter or offer to walk your neighbor’s dog. Our furry friends are our “forever” family. They do not judge or belittle us. They love us unconditionally, and spending time with them is very healing.

Remember, self-care is not selfish; it is an essential part of healing and rebuilding emotional resilience.

SOCIAL SUPPORT

Seeking support from friends, family, a therapist, or a spiritual professional is also crucial when navigating a relationship with an energy vampire. Surrounding yourself with a supportive network is a necessity for self-care and self-validation. Talking to others can help you gain perspective and strength. In addition, seeking professional help can help you process any lingering mental health issues, emotions, and toxic energy residue, and help you develop better coping and protective strategies.

After cutting ties with an energy vampire, it’s especially important to focus on building healthy and positive relationships. Surround yourself with people who are uplifting and supportive. Cultivate relationships that are based on mutual respect, trust, and empathy. Seek out people who share your values and encourage your personal growth. Building healthy relationships can contribute to your overall well-being and provide the support system you need to thrive.

SPIRITUAL SELF-EMPOWERMENT

A key element often neglected in “pop psychology” approaches to energy vampirism is the need for spiritual or metaphysical self-empowerment. Since transpersonal energy theft is, at its core, a metaphysical process or spiritual entanglement between two people’s auric fields, it stands to reason that energy shielding, psychic defense, and spiritual protection should be the primary focus when dealing with energy vampires.

Even just a few minutes of prayer, meditation, breath work, journaling, affirmations, chanting, candle work, divination, and so on will greatly improve your own mental and emotional well-being while working wonders in how you navigate interactions with energy vampires.

Some of my favorite spiritual interventions include:

Psychic Defense: Grounding and shielding your energy is vital when dealing with energy vampires. Grounding involves connecting with the earth’s energy to stabilize and center yourself. This can be done by standing barefoot on the ground, sitting near a plant, tree or water, or visualizing roots growing from your feet into the earth. Shielding involves creating a protective energy field around yourself to deflect negative energy. This can be done by visualizing a white light or a protective bubble around you.

Do a daily grounding and shielding ritual in which you visualize a white or golden light of protection around you so that any negativity directed at you does not enter your aura, but is deflected away from you. Visualize yourself protected and empowered. Supplement this practice with affirmations in which you repeat positive statements to yourself, such as “I am strong and protected” or “I am surrounded by love and light.

Prayer: Pray or engage in other religious or spiritual practices that connect you to a higher power and your spirit guardians based on your personal belief system or choice of religion. This may include invoking the guidance, support, and protection of elementals, ancestors, spirit guides, angels, ascended masters, or deities. Ask them to provide you with divine or magical protection.

Cord Cutting: I like to take an Epsom salt (magnesium sulfate) bath and call on Archangel Michael to cut the energy cords I have with people who no longer serve my highest good. I specifically visualize those people who are disrespectful, toxic, or abusive and ask Spirit to help them find healing and peace elsewhere on their own, away from me, without having to drain or steal my energY

Mindfulness: Practicing mindfulness and persence increases your awareness of your energy field and makes you more resistant to negative energy and theft. This can include focusing on your breath, observing your thoughts and emotions without judgment, or practicing gratitude. Keep a gratitude journal. Be sure to write about all the kind, loving, supportive people in your life so that you are constantly reminded that there are good people around you and in your life. Focus on these people and the many other blessings in your life, no matter how small.

Crystal Protection: Certain crystals have protective and energizing properties. Good examples are black tourmaline for grounding and protection, clear quartz for energy amplification, and amethyst for spiritual cleansing. I always carry some black tourmaline with me. Black Tourmaline is considered one of the most powerful protective and personal healing gemstones. Not only does its black color absorb negative energy directed at you by toxic family members, but it is also very effective as a grounding stone. Tourmaline is formed deep underground under intense pressure by hydrothermal activity in the presence of certain minerals such as iron and manganese, giving it enhanced magnetic and electrical properties.

Chakra Balancing: The chakras are energy centers in the body that regulate various aspects of your well-being. Balancing your chakras can help improve your overall energy level and make you less susceptible to negative energy.

Meditation: Learn to meditate or download a guided meditation app for your favorite digital device. It will calm your mind and reduce anxiety and overthinking. It is important to clear your mind as much as possible of thoughts about the toxic people in your life. The less you think about them, the less power or influence they have over you.

 

About The Author: Moon Goddess Moon Goddess is a third generation empathic healer and seer. She started to give healing readings to people more than 20 years ago. She has always been interested and studied all things metaphysical from a young age. Being hypersensitive she can feel and see things before they happen. Utilizing the Tarot, and with the help of her Guides, she is a source of support for many people all over the world. After he passed over, her grandfather kept his promise and came back to say goodbye and gave her the most amazing experience. Moon knows there truly is a Heaven, and it is wonderful! Sharing her experience has helped many people after they have lost someone, or anyone experiencing some form of grief.